Finally getting around to reading my April 2011 Essence and ran across the article entitled "What's in a Name?" The article's first couple of lines caught my eye as it talked about the fact that Lebron James called his long term live in girlfriend and mother of his two children "a great sidekick." In fact the full quote given Harper's Bazaar ~ was "A person like myself always needs a great sidekick." My initial reaction was like WOW! The mother of your kids and the woman you live with and have dated for years is a "sidekick." I read on.
The author talked to some guys she knows about the title. One said that titles are "archaic societal parameters rooted in insecurity." Another said titles really didn't matter. More specifically he says "What I call her doesn't matter." So I guess you can call her a bitch and that doesn't make a difference....
The men in the room with my all agreed that the title was interesting. I must say that I would not want to be referred to as a "sidekick" by the man that I am suppose to be in a committed relationship with. Does a man marry his sidekick? Is sidekick a term of endearment (on some level), kinda like "bottom bitch?" For those of you who don't know bottom bitch is the term for the main chick. She is referred to as bottom because she is the missionary one, if you get my drift. Sidekick to me kinda sounds like a friend with benefits or like that woman who isn't going anywhere no matter what level of disrespect and/or degredation her man subjects her too. I wonder if LeBron's "sidekick" refers to him as her "sidekick?'
What do you think? If you are trying to be someone's wife do you want to be the "sidekick?" Can a "sidekick" be elevated to wife status?
Of course she can elevate herself to a wife status. Matter of fact, many "sidekicks" became/become wives because the man knew/knows he could have his ice cream and cake. For some women, the mere thought of being somebody's wife elevates them in their mind. False yes, but to the "sidekick" she perceives herself as having obtained a certain status. lol
ReplyDeleteThe makeup that many men like about the "sidekick" is that, come hell or high water, she is going to have his back in all of his wrong. The con? She fools herself if she for one second thinks that "she" can change him or that it will be different.
As for the "bottom bitch". It too is just a glorified status.